But soon after her move inshe ran into the challenge of meeting people to explore her new home with. Pollekoff said. The city is vast, and the traffic is unforgiving and constant. People often talk about the perils of dating and meeting people in major cities as young adults, but it can be just as hard for an older demographic, who according to many of the women in the group, feel largely ignored.
Inafter failed attempts to find a group focused on female friendships, Ms. Pollekoff decided to start her own group, called Finding Female Friends Past Fifty on Meetupa site where people can make online groups to meet up in real life. After just a couple of weeks, the group amassed around members. And it just kept growing.
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The first meet-up Ms. Pollekoff organized was a happy hour event at a bar in Century City. Around 20 women showed up and, in her eyes, it was a huge success. They are best, inseparable friends now.
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One of the first members was Lindsie Carlsen, 73, an Angeleno who has retired and now manages her apartment building part time. She identifies as a transsexual woman and transitioned when she was Carlsen was a member of a lesbian group when she lived in the San Fernando Valley, but decided to find a different community after her move to Mid-Wilshire, a centrally located district close to museums like the Los Angeles County Museum of Art.
Her decision was prompted by a desire for more diverse activities. Carlsen, who appreciated Ms. Art gallery visits. Pollekoff said she was deeply touched by Mr. They had to cap the attendees to nine because of ticket limitations and had more than a dozen people on the wait-list.
The group, including a couple of first-time attendees, walked into the museum together. While Ms. Pollekoff initially led the charge, once inside, everyone moved at their own pace.
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They occasionally discussed the pieces of art together or asked the docent questions. But mostly there was quiet.
Standing in front of Mr. Pollekoff shared information about the artist to curious members. Ralph said she did not participate much in other groups but was drawn to the group because of this particular exhibit. Downstairs, the group found another massive installation by Mr. Pollekoff carefully studied the delicate bamboo installation quietly.
Flor Covel, 56, who wanted to check out the Yayoi Kusama exhibit upstairs, ed the group two years ago out of a desire to meet people to do things around the city with after the end of a long relationship. Covel, who now counts Ms. Pollekoff as one of her best friends. For Ms. Pollekoff, her group has its limitations. Mostly distance ones.
After a few hours at the museum, the women drove to a nearby Korean barbecue restaurant. Members introduced themselves to one another while waiting for their meals. They discussed their lives, the things that keep them busy, the choices of some to marry or stay single and to have children or not. Lisa Baskin, 63, a retired former administrator and assistant principal for the Los Angeles Unified School District, said she spends much of her time on pottery and her grandchildren.
Read a personal essay about the ecstasy and the agony of being a grandmother. Carol Meirow, 64 and a new member, explained her situation to the group.
The women listened; discussions in varying degrees of depth occurred throughout the meal. Pollekoff wrote in an a few days after the meeting. These Women Figured It Out.